How to escape an Impossible Situation - My Strategic and Tactical way to get your ass out of a bind when the "Shit Hits the Fan!"
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I'm writing this after hearing a story from a mother about her son who is in an impossible situation. Basically, the impossible situation is that his ex-wife has her thumb down on him and will take all of his money and he doesn't get to see his kids as often as he'd like.
So…that's the impossible situation??? Sound familiar? Well, see the quotes above.
How do you escape an impossible situation? The "impossible" situations that I'm speaking of are the hardest to deal with. They're emotional, intellectual, financial and spiritual all rolled up into one.
The first step is to write down on paper exactly what the impossible situation or problem is. Go in to all of the details that come to mind, the worst case scenario. Take some time. Get it all out on paper. It must be written down. All of it. Feel free to do it now!
How many pages was it? One page, two pages, half a page??? That's great!
Now you can crumble it up, burn it, drive it over with your car or shoot it with the weapon of your choice. Whatever makes you feel better.
Step two: Write it down again. Let's be crystal clear about exactly what the "impossible" problem is. You can probably get it down to one or two sentences.
Chances are that when you wrote down the situation that needs to be fixed, it doesn't look so impossible to handle. Just by writing it down, the problem shrunk. Now that it's manageable,let's crush it.
Where to now? This is the fun part. It's actually very difficult. Sit down, buckle up, take out pen and paper and begin to write 100 things you want to have, be, accomplish, provide, etc. Nothing you can write down is too big. Dare to dream. Go big! Don't get up until all 100 are written down.
Whew! That was tough! Because you've actually written down 100 things that you truly want, you are now in the good company of the top 3% of income earners in the world. Congratulations and welcome to the club.
Think I'm kidding? You've now made your brain think about your future and exactly what you want. By doing that, all of those things are now the focus of thoughts…and actions.
Now look at your list. You'll notice that there are around 5 or 6 things on your list that are clearly the most important for you where you are right now. I'd even venture to say that there is a solution to your impossible situation that you're dealing with.
Let's circle back around to specifically address the "impossible" situation. On the new sheet of paper that you re-wrote it down on, write down 20 things that you could do to fix/solve this "impossible" problem right now.
Think the list of 100 is difficult? This list of 20 will hurt your brain. It should because it's that important. You'll hit about 16 ways to solve the problem until you hit brain lock but keep driving through. The last 4 is where the true answer is. Keep going and don't stop.
Got that done? I told you it would hurt your brain!
Let's review what we've accomplished so far.
You've completely and thoroughly identified your "impossible situation" making it shrink and become manageable. You've identified 100 things you'd like to accomplish and have in your lifetime and 5 or 6 things that are the most important goals you have, one of which that just may solve your problem.
You've made a list of 20 things that you can do to fix your problem. With the true solution in one of the last 3 or 4 on the list.
Just by accomplishing this much, you've taken the brakes off and stomped on the accelerator of your life!
Ready to hit Turbo?
Take out another sheet of paper and write down the 5 or 6 goals that really stand out on your list of 100 leaving 4 spaces between each one.
Under each of the 5 or 6 goals, write down 3 things you can do right now, today, to accomplish that specific goal.
Why are you still reading? You should be on your mission getting goals accomplished!
While you're here, let's address a couple of pitfalls that must be addressed about goals.
Never and I mean never share your goals with someone that doesn't write down their goals. They may say they have goals but if they're not specifically written down, they're not goals, they're dreams. Not the same!
Look closely at your goals. They must be something that is based on your actions. Not exclusively as most huge goals require help or a team along the way. Don't think you have a goal that involves someone else doing the work for you. You must have an active roll in achieving the goal.
How about Hyper-Drive?
Let's re-write your 5 or 6 goals but change the wording so that it reads as if you already have it. An example would be taking "I want to lose 30 pounds" to "I weigh 235 pounds."
Which makes your brain respond more positively to what you want?
I want to lose 30 pounds...or…
I weigh 235 pounds by losing 40 pounds of body fat and adding 10 pounds of muscle mass.
1) I consume a high protein diet with all the greens I wish.
2) I do Crossfit workouts Monday, Wednesday and Friday mornings.
3) I walk Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday mornings by myself or with my significant other.
the more specific you are with yourself, the faster you achieve your
goals and solve that "impossible situation" you're having.
One last thing to kick your brain in to full-tilt-boogie. Put a date on your goals. Having a time stamp activates your brain and makes it happen.
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I believe the above is everything you need to accomplish your life's goals but if you have questions, use the "Contact Me" page if you need clarification.
Be warned! The first thing I'll ask for is your list of 100.